Originally posted on HR Box. Q. I’ve received a serious medical diagnosis that’s going to require surgery and a lengthy two month recovery. Luckily, the company where I’ve worked for two years offers good insurance; but because we’re small (fewer than 50 employees) they’re not required through the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) to offer medical leave and hold my job while I’m gone.So now I’m scared not just about getting through the surgery but also about whether I’m going to have a job after it’s over. How should I approach my employer about the situation?A. I’m sorry about your diagnosis. Let’s look at how we can improve your chances of keeping your job after you recover.Like so many things in life, I think the best approach would be honesty and goodwill. What would that look like?First, I would talk to your employer and let them know what’s going on; keep it big-picture and drama-free. For instance you could say something like “I just found I need to have surgery and is going to take two months to recover”.Clearly acknowledge that you know the company is not required to allow you to go on medical leave and much less to keep your job open. Then make a case for why you hope that they still consider doing so in your situation.This is where you need to think of every business reason why it’s a good idea to keep your job open until you return. For example you can remind them of the investment the company has already made in you, point out upcoming projects for which your skill set is a perfect fit. Highlight the cost and hassle of recruiting for your replacement. Suggest which parts of your job could be transferred to a temp.If they seem receptive, give as much detail as you feel comfortable regarding your health. For example, when the surgery scheduled, what the recovery might look like, how long it might take, whether you might be able to work part-time from home.Lastly, if they agree to keep your job open for you, it will likely be without pay. Just make sure they keep you on the payroll and enrolled in health insurance, even if you have to send them a check for your part of the premium.A good outcome for both your surgery and your job is quite possible. Keeping fingers crossed.
It has been called the richest ornament of women. In some Indian cultures, it still is a decisive factor while pinning down on a bride. So when a woman decides to get rid of her tresses and go bald, it’s not just heads that turn, what also takes a 180 degree turn are society’s deep-rooted perceptions about beauty.While most would think of it as the end of their dating life or as the beginning of a body image issue, there are a few who would happily chop off their long locks to make a statement or just to get rid of the weight off their head.Take for instance 29-year-old Sumati Jain. Five years ago while she was pursuing her masters, the Bangalore-based homemaker plotted her hair assassination after her parents started dropping hints of marriage.”My hairline was also receding and I also wanted to do something for kicks. It was this crazy, daring, wild phase of my life,” she says with a chuckle.She exposed her shiny scalp to the world after three stages of relentless, heartless mane chopping.The first visit to the parlour left her with a bob cut, then followed a shorter crew cut and she finally visited a men’s saloon on a quiet Sunday for the finale.”My mom didn’t speak to me for a week. But my dad and grandfather, who’s also bald, were really cool,” Sumati told IANS.”I got extreme reactions…Some thought it was really cool, some laughed behind my back, some even thought I’d turned into a monk,” she adds.advertisementBut the ironical part was that Sumati got engaged while her hair was just a few inches long. “My husband was fine with it. He thought I looked cute,” she adds with more chuckles.But not all men hold similar notions of beauty. “I would like to wait for a year,” says 25-year-old Saurabh Dabbas, when asked if he would date a bald woman.The barren look is not for all women, cautions hairstylist Sylvie.”It suits those with oval heads and good skin. It’s a complete no-no for those with lots of wrinkles; it makes you look more aged,” said Sylvie who runs a saloon in Delhi.Ananya Bose, a Delhi-based journalist, went bald just after delivering a baby.”I had such long, lustrous hair. I remember when the parlour woman chopped them, the one standing next to her freaked out and asked her what the hell she was doing.”But it was such a weight off my head. I felt so, so free and light. You feel as if you get rid of all the troubles,” she says.However, in Indian society women with shaven heads have much deeper connotations.”In many Indian cultures, widows’ heads were shaved. It’s also associated with sadhvis or monks. It’s a sign of celibacy,” says social scientist C.P. Bhambri.However, these connotations don’t deter those tempted to take the plunge.”I think it would feel real good and free to have no hair to take care of. Though I like my tresses, they are very frizzy and at times unmanageable,” says Shikha Arora, a professional.”Going bald will be hassle-free. I would definitely love to do it in the hot Delhi summers,” she added.But being bald comes with strings attached, says Sylvie.”It requires a lot of maintenance. You have to moisturise your scalp regularly. People usually call a barber home every month to clean the growth,” she adds.Also, there comes a stage while you are growing back your hair when it’s neither here nor there — just plain clumsy.”Though growing it back is a good idea as you get a new crop of hair, the stage when your hair is 10-18 months old is very difficult,” says Sylvie.Adds Ananya: “A strand would come out from one side, another from the other. It can get really messy.”It took Sumati three years to grow back her hair to what she describes as a “respectable length”.Internationally, pop star Britney Spears and actress Natalie Portman have famously sported the bald look. Back home, actresses Shabana Azmi, Nandita Das, Antara Mali, Lisa Ray and model Diandra Soares have tread the same path.However, all said and done, there are many sceptics of the unadorned look.”It completely baffles me why any woman would voluntarily want to go bald. A woman would like to look like a normal woman. There’s the whole cosmetic industry which runs into trillions to make you look good,” says Bhambri.advertisement
Hotel says PH coach apologized for ‘kikiam for breakfast’ claim Allegri went for an attacking lineup, with Federico Bernardeschi, Douglas Costa and Mario Mandzukic supporting Higuain.And that paid off right from the start in a terrible opening 10 minutes for Spurs.Mousa Dembele fouled Miralem Pjanic, 30 yards (meters) from goal, inside the first minute. Pjanic himself took the free kick and picked out Higuain, who beat the offside trap to volley into the far corner.Matters swiftly went from bad to worse for Spurs as Ben Davies tripped Bernardeschi inside the area and referee Felix Brych pointed instantly to the spot.Higuain stepped up and placed a precise penalty into the bottom left corner for his second goal of the match and his eighth in his last five matches.Tottenham had a mountain to climb against a side which had reached the Champions League final in two of the past three seasons. Juventus had not let in a goal in 2018 and had only conceded one in its past 16 matches.However, with Juventus content to sit back, Spurs began to dominate possession and almost got one back in the 26th but goalkeeper Gianluigi Buffon pulled off a great save to keep out Kane’s header from point-blank range.Higuain almost got his hat trick after a swift counterattack and some lovely interplay with Pjanic, but he fired narrowly wide of the left upright.Buffon did well to tip another Kane effort round the post but Spurs were getting closer and did get back into the match 10 minutes from halftime.Kane ran onto Dele Alli’s through ball, took it round the onrushing Buffon and calmly deposited into an empty net. PH military to look into China’s possible security threat to power grid SEA Games: PH still winless in netball after loss to Thais ‘We cannot afford to fail’ as SEA Games host – Duterte View comments Don’t miss out on the latest news and information. Bucks’ G-League affiliate picks up Brandon Jennings BeautyMNL open its first mall pop-up packed with freebies, discounts, and other exclusives “We are a young team in this competition. To show that performance is to be proud and to congratulate the players because they were fantastic.”Juventus coach Massimiliano Allegri reacted strongly afterward when it was suggested his team, which is going for a seventh successive Serie A title, should have beaten Spurs, which is fifth in the Premier League.“I think people have lost a bit of objectivity,” said a clearly annoyed Allegri. “Juve plays to win but it’s not favorite. You can’t go to the final every year. I think the lads are having a great season, but it’s a long leap from there to think they’re going to win a last-16 match 3-0.“That drives me nuts, because people don’t have an idea about the other teams. I can’t accept that people are getting depressed over a 2-2 draw, it seems like we lost 8-0.”It was also an exciting first half in Basel, with Manchester City scoring three goals before going on to win 4-0 to leave it with one foot in the quarterfinals.ADVERTISEMENT Tottenham’s Christian Eriksen, 2nd left, celebrates with teammate Erik Lamela and Harry Kane, right, after scoring his side’s second goal during the Champions League, round of 16, first-leg soccer match between Juventus and Tottenham Hotspurs, at the Allianz Stadium in Turin, Italy, Tuesday, Feb. 13, 2018. (AP Photo/Antonio Calanni)TURIN, Italy — At a crucial moment in its Champions League last-16 match on Tuesday, Tottenham survived against Juventus simply by standing still.Spurs goalkeeper Hugo Lloris chose not to dive in either direction as Juventus forward Gonzalo Higuain approached to strike his second penalty of the game. With no big gaps appearing, Higuain smashed the ball straight down the middle and saw it cannon off the crossbar.ADVERTISEMENT LATEST STORIES MOST READ Ethel Booba on hotel’s clarification that ‘kikiam’ is ‘chicken sausage’: ‘Kung di pa pansinin, baka isipin nila ok lang’ ‘A complete lie:’ Drilon refutes ‘blabbermouth’ Salo’s claims It was the first goal Juventus had conceded in 696 minutesSpurs pushed for the equalizer but Juventus almost extended its lead on the stroke of halftime when Serge Aurier brought down Douglas Costa in the area. Higuain stepped up again but failed to complete his hat trick, firing onto the crossbar.He had another good chance to grab a third, shortly before the hour, but he headed a corner straight at Lloris, who had done well to tip Bernardeschi’s effort round his post moments earlier.Juventus was made to pay for its missed opportunities as Buffon was caught out by a low Eriksen free kick into the bottom left corner.Sports Related Videospowered by AdSparcRead Next Do we want to be champions or GROs? – Sotto A goal would have given Juventus a commanding 3-1 lead at halftime. Instead, Spurs managed to recover from a terrible start and level in the second period to finish at 2-2, ahead of the second leg at Wembley on March 7.Lloris had dived low to his right against Higuain’s successful first spot kick, getting a hand to the well-placed penalty.FEATURED STORIESSPORTSSEA Games: Biñan football stadium stands out in preparedness, completionSPORTSPrivate companies step in to help SEA Games hostingSPORTSBoxers Pacquiao, Petecio torchbearers for SEA Games openingHarry Kane and Christian Eriksen scored in each half after Higuain had netted twice inside the opening nine minutes“I feel so proud,” Tottenham coach Mauricio Pochettino said. “We showed great character against a team that played two finals in three years, with amazing experience on the pitch. 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